I want to get healthy BUT I don’t want to give up dessert after dinner.
I want to lose weight, BUT I don’t want to give up chocolate chip cookies.
So how do you get your “why” bigger? You reframe your emphasis. Don’t think about what you’re against (like giving up cookies–or frothy coffee drinks or cocktails or…) think about what you’re for (like reaching a healthy weight and staying there or like hitting your optimal health mark).
Let me give you an example. When I discovered TSFL, I was not looking for it. In fact, I was dodging all talks of weight loss because I didn’t have the energy to go down that road and quite frankly I’d rather obsess on brie. (My but/t was definitely bigger than my why.)
But when I finally caved and got on board, after the first week I felt so hopeful and empowered, my “why” started to grow. And it got bigger, and bigger, until finally, it outgrew my but/t. My “why” became about doing things like ziplining which I never would have done before because it involved a scale and not even my husband knew my weight. It involved educating myself on how to STAY at a healthy weight and help others reach their goal weights and stay there. Seeing myself and others at the healthiest weight made my why ginormous.
Is your “why” bigger than your “but/t”?